Q: Will I be happy if I fulfill all my desires?
This is a good question. Nithyananda speaks at length about it in many discourses. The first thing we should answer is do we really know our desires? All our problems arise because of this: we do not know what our true desires are.
Nithyananda says, ‘we are very happy with a fan in our house but the minute our neighbor gets an air-conditioner we feel our 
house has become unbearably hot. We love our car but when we see our colleague gets a new Mercedes, our car becomes old.’
This is so true. Most of our desires are what are called borrowed desires. We borrow them from friends, relatives and colleagues. We really don’t need them. Just because someone else whom we know gets something, we too want to get that. Our mind tells us, ‘how can you be left behind? This is a blow to your ego. What will people think of you?’
This way we start accumulating desires which are not even ours. If we go back and look at things at our house or office, we will see that we do not even require most of the things. We hardly use them. They are simple show pieces, nothing more, nothing less. The problem is that even after getting a better car than your neighbor, when you see your neighbor gets something better than what you have, once again a new desire will arise in you.
Borrowed desires never give us satisfaction because they are not truly ours in the first place. It is just the play of our mind. Nithyananda says, ‘If you want to be happy, just drop your borrowed desires and work on fulfilling your true desires. When you start to borrow desires you are inviting trouble for yourself’
Now, how do we know what our true desires are? Whenever a desire arises, just ask yourself, 'do we really need it? Is it really coming from inside or is it because of an external source?' We automatically get an answer. This is a simple yet powerful technique. Try it and see for your self. The second level meditation program called the Life Bliss Program 2 takes you through a very powerful meditation to drop your borrowed desires and leaves you with your true desires. If you get a chance we strongly recommend you to do it. For now enjoy this video on desires by Nithyananda.
3 comments:
There is no such thing is internal desire. All desires are because we want to better our lives. Until cars were invented, people didn't have a desire to buy a car. Now, because cars are available, and are very useful, we have a desire to own a car. Would you call that borrowed desire? I don't think so.
M.
Hello M.
There is no problem with having a desire to own a car for your comforts. But if you are buying a car simply because your neighbor has one, that is what we are talking about here. If you have a desire resulting from comparison and jealousy, it's most probably not your inherent desire. The next time a desire comes up, try to analyze and find out the source of your desire.
Have a blissful day.
In the latest Youtube video about dream state and wake state, swami mentioned that wake state and dream state are same. I am bit confused about wake state. The people involved in it, including swami . Are they also unreal?
I mean they are they also created by my mind? In that case this whole universe / what ever we exist is dream of me? OR this whole scene can be a dream of a another higher reality and we are just images within?
I always had this idea about us and world from childhood. When i say this to my friends I was laughed at. But today I feel very light after seeing swamy's talk. Could I get the clarifications from swami himself for this?
Thanks
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